Receptivity is something I have been pondering lately. This has been inspired by a course
I am taking by Kim Anami, which about Taoist healing practices for women. Kim gave a mind expanding talk on the feminine. Now most of us have heard about the feminine and masculine concepts. Our world especially in the west is dominated by the masculine energy/archetype. What struck me deeply about Kim's message on the feminine was this: Its the rare woman that is living from the feminine. Most of us operate from the masculine, because it is so dominate in our world.
What does a masculine driven woman looks like? She likes to be in control, get things done, burning the midnight oil, and push her self to the limits. She is admire for her drive and strong work ethic, and she is often very successful in the world.
But there is a dark side. Living from the masculine produces burn out, low libido, and for many women adrenal fatigue or at its worst chronic fatigue. Signs that your operating from the masculine (seriously for most of us its our default setting) your tired, your sexual mojo has disappeared, and as Kim says, " your crusty"...meaning you're grumpy. Not a fun way to live. What is the alternative?
How do we life from the feminine? I am no expect. In fact I am just in the discovery phase. But it has to do with letting go. Slowing down. Doing less. Stopping the need to control. Or we could say, being receptive...the act of receiving.
I like to imagine that when I am operating too much in the masculine I have these claws or even better talons, I sink them into anything I can get my hands on and I won't let go. It has to get done. It has to be done my way. I can't let go.
To be in the feminine is to mentally unlock of claw like grip on life situations and events.
We need to be receptive to something greater then ourselves assisting us in life. When we are so busy, working and doing, we can't hear or be present to help from another source outside of ourselves.
Here is what I am doing in my baby stages of nurturing the feminine in me.
This could be a long list or a short list. Let me cut to the chase.
It's quite simple (hmmm like all good things) I simply pay attention to when I am tired and when I am crusty. When I am tired I rest. Really! Sometime I find myself tired only after an hour after I get up in the morning!. I think we are all seriously burnt out and have no idea.I am lucky that I have created a life for myself where I can structure my day very freely. This might be harder to implement if you work 9-5. Even on the days when I have to start my working hours earlier, if I have been doing a good job of resting on the other days, I will have better resources for my work days. Then when I have easier or slower days I can go back to more resting. I am recharging my seriously depleted life force battery.
Here is how I rest. I get into bed and I set a timer. Yup very unromantic. I have found that if I lay in bed my head is continually assessing if I feel rested, and how long I have been laying there for. I set the timer for 15 mixtures. When I timer is done I reassess. Usually I still feel burnt out and I set it for another 15 mixtures. That usually does the trick and I get up.
For me to do this resting practice, I have to trust. I have to believe and be receptive to the idea that in letting go of all that needs to be done, and taking the time to rest myself, I am actually being more productive. In resting myself, I become whole, who I really am. When I am whole and rested, I am happier. When I am happier things start to show up in my life, because I am more in tune, more in the flow.
A note on being crusty. If you start this mindful practice and find that in addition to being tired at times, you are also crusty, and grumpy, take that as a sign that your body is not happy. Crusty is a sign that your body is stressed. I've been quite surprise to find that often I give a crusty respond to my husband or other family member. Not only is it great that I am stopping the crusty remarks, but I am seeing this as a sign that inside I am not very happy. I need to care for myself. It's time to care for yourself in what ever wonderful way that might look like.
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